If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.

When someone you love is diagnosed with depression that includes thoughts of suicide, conversations with their care team can bring a flood of new terms. Types of therapy, medication changes, levels of care. It is a lot to absorb, especially when you are frightened for them.

Knowing the general shape of the options can help you ask better questions and support your loved one's decisions. This is not a substitute for medical advice: every plan is built by a clinician who knows the person. Taking the time to understand is a thoughtful way to stand beside them.

Safety comes first

Before any long-term plan, a clinician looks at how safe the person is right now. Families can help by sharing what they have noticed: talk of hopelessness or being a burden, withdrawal from others, changes in sleep or appetite, or any comment about wanting to die. If you have not already, it is okay to ask your loved one directly whether they are thinking about suicide. The answer helps everyone respond.

Clinicians often talk about a safety plan, a written list of warning signs, coping steps and people to contact. They may also recommend keeping medications stored securely and having firearms held by someone outside the home for a while.

Options a clinician may bring up

  • Talk therapy. Several kinds of therapy focus on depression and suicidal thinking, helping people understand their patterns and build coping skills.
  • Medication. Antidepressants are a common part of depression care, and a prescriber may adjust or change them over time.
  • More structured programs. Intensive outpatient and partial hospital programs offer more structured care several days a week while the person lives at home.
  • Hospital care. When someone is not safe, a short hospital stay can provide close support while treatment begins.
  • Other approaches. For depression that has not improved with earlier treatment, a clinician may discuss additional options suited to that situation.

No single approach fits everyone. Plans are often combined and adjusted along the way, and it is normal for the first plan not to be the last one.

Questions families can ask

  • What are the next steps, and what should we watch for at home?
  • How will we know if the plan needs to change?
  • Who do we call after hours?
  • How can I support treatment without taking over?

Asking these questions, with your loved one's permission, shows respect for the person and for the care team.

Where Spravato fits among the options

For adults with major depression and acute suicidal thoughts, one more option a clinician may describe is this treatment. Spravato (esketamine) is a nasal spray the FDA has approved, taken along with an oral antidepressant, to treat depressive symptoms in adults with major depressive disorder who have acute suicidal thoughts or behavior. It is also approved for treatment-resistant depression. It is not a crisis treatment: it does not replace emergency care or a hospital stay when one is needed, and it has not been shown to prevent suicide or to reduce suicidal thoughts or behavior. It is given only in a certified clinic under a safety program called the Spravato REMS. The patient takes it there under supervision, stays at least two hours to be monitored, and does not drive until the next day after a full night of sleep. It is never dispensed for home use. Whether it fits is a clinician's decision after an evaluation.

Holding on to hope

Depression is a treatable illness, and recovery is possible, including for people who have lived through thoughts of suicide. The path is not always straight, and finding the right fit can take time. Your steady presence while they explore options matters more than knowing every term.

Once you both understand the landscape, a free 30-minute consultation can be a calm next step, and many clinics that offer this treatment start there. Your loved one can ask about any of the options above and hear whether an evaluation makes sense. A relative or friend can place that first call to understand the process, and your loved one decides who comes along.

If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.